Wednesday, April 23, 2014

WOUNDED WOMEN, TREATING OURSELVES WITH KINDNESS

 Last night I was in my little office looking for a card to send to a friend.  I have a huge card collection, plus I enjoy making cards.  I often buy cards when I travel, glue them in to my journal, and write about my day in the card.... Anyway, while I was digging around in the drawer, I saw a  card that I had purchase in Tennessee in Gatlinburg.  I just love the artist, paul murray, and think he really captures such beautiful sketches of children and the elderly. This was a card that I just loved and had meant to frame.  I love the innocent expression on the face of this little MISS CUMBERLAND.   It also brought me a certain sadness to see this sweet and innocent face, and made me think of how so many of us have great psychological wounds , often starting in childhood. Many times, these wounds dominate our lives and make it hard for us to recover or function at our peak.   Recently I wrote an article about Self care, and when i saw the innocence of this childs eyes, it made me think how very important it is to treat ourselves with the tenderness, forgiveness , and acceptance that we would offer readily to this child.  We need to honor our own child, for many of us are innocently damaged from past experiences.  Look in the mirror  and allow your self to see your own.... INNER CHILD.... then treat yourself as you would this child in her innocence.  Often so hard to do, but visualizing your own "child" in her innocence, makes it, I think, an easier thing to be kind to ourselves. 


21 comments:

  1. a very sweet card. it is hard to get over those long-ago scars, for sure.

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  2. Sometimes I stop and remind myself I need to think and speak only words of grace - not just to others but to myself also. If it doesn't meet the Grace criteria I try to rethink the thought.

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  3. Oh those scars and old heartaches. So hard to let go of, and it's so hard to treat ourselves with tenderness.

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  4. What a precious little face! I can see why you fell in love with her, Jeanne. You're so right about scars. Sometimes the ones inside can be so much worse than the ones on the outside... So glad you like your new necklace, sweetie. I love how you're going to think of dear friends when you wear it. Beautiful. Lori

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  5. she is indeed a beautiful little cherub, so wonderful illustrated. You are so spot on with what you say here -- we are the results of our past and yes we do need to nurture ourselves. Keep getting well Jeanne

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  6. This post, takes my breath away...... All of it. The photos, with which you illustrate it. And the wonderfully Wise words, you say to us.

    Oh yes! And this general topic (being kind to our inner child and our present selves) seems to be popping up, all over the place, in Pretty Blog Land. Isn't that wonderful? Almost as if an inner nerve has been tweaked, in many of we, older women. A nerve, which reminds us that we soooo neeeed self care. So need it.

    Everyone always needs self care. This is a given. But somehow, early years which are so full of activity and duties, then we can forget our needs. But when we become more "olden," with less duties (happily), and also less boundless energy and sparkling health, it really becomes necessary to take time for ourselves. Time to sit quietly, listen to ourselves (listen to our gut feelings, as the saying goes), and make plans.... To respond to that inner voice, which knows us the best. And which can tell us, just what TLC it needs.

    Just as we would sit with that little girl, and wait for her to tell us things... And listen intently... And wrap her in a loving hug. Do all this, to/for ourselves.

    Thank you.
    Tessa~

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    1. Yes! That is so what we need to do with our own inner llittle girls. When you see that precious little face... really see her as you. This does take alot of practice though, and awareness of what it is we need to be "kind to ourselves.

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  7. So sorry to hear about your recent illness and stay in the hospital. I have just caught up. Happy to see you are at home and practicing good 'self care' that will help you through this time. It really does work doesn't it. I used this, and still do, when I know I have to 'work through' those urges to just not do something I know will be beneficial to me.....like morning Yoga.
    I LOVE that iphone app, Waterlogue! Barb from Colorado used it on one of my photos and it now has become my 'header' on my blog. All I need now is an iphone!!
    Jeanne, please take care and tap into, like I know you have been, that 'Jeanne resilience' that is so inspiring. Take care.

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    1. Thanks so much Jim and my entire focus right now is WELLNESS! being sick is not my forte and do much better as the health care provider. maybe you could get a cheap IPHONE that someone has upgraded to on amazon.??? I do love your header and believe I mentioned that before. It is really cute and that waterlogue is really addictive. While i was in the hospital without my dear NIKON.... my Iphone saved my sanity. We have come a long ways from when I was a little girl and my grandma had that big wooden box phone on her wall which you had to crank to get the operator. Who would have "thunk it". Have a wonderful day and thanks for your encouragement

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  8. Beautiful Jeanne, the pastel, the card, your words. I love your analogy of looking at ourselves as a child...I allow that child to live in my wonder and awe of nature, but not so sure I'm as kind to her when I look in the mirror sometimes, so thank you for this! xo I do so hope you are getting stronger and getting well quickly!

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  9. She has a very sweet face. I think we all have inner child angst..I know when I am really sad or hurt it can easily bring up old wounds from my childhood if I let it go there. I try not to. My goal at this stage of my life is to get happy, be happy and stay happy. I hope you are feeling better- blessings!

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  10. What a lovely sketch, Jeanne. I see her wounded expression and recognize that as me when I was a child. I think we can learn great empathy from these wounding experiences - remembering how we felt so we take great care not to do the same to others. A harsh lesson, but one that stays with you as a daily reminder to live with kindness, empathy and compassion. Hugs xo Karen

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  11. What a sweet face and delightful yet wistful painting. We both wrote about the innocence of childhood today :) "To live with kindness" is one of the greatest goals we can pursue, I think. Lovely post.

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  12. A beautiful post. I have an inner child that needs much tending. Only as I have grown older, have I welcomed, accepted and nourished her every day.

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  13. Wonderful reminder, Jeanne, that we all need to care for the child within each of us.

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  14. What a sweet, yet wounded, little girl. The look in her eyes tugs at my heart!

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  15. Beautiful card and text. We hardly write cards these days.

    Greetings,
    Filip

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  16. Wonderful advice written so beautifully.

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  17. It is a beautiful drawing of a gorgeous child. Is she looking shy or sad? Your message is a good one too. Sadly too many children are treated poorly and lose their innocence too soon. We are going to Gatlinburg in November. I must keep my eye out for some of his cards. I usually buy cards from local artists when I travel too.

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  18. What a great message you put over in this post. also wanted to say thankyou for the kind words you left on my photo blog Jeanne so much appreciated. I wonder if it was the same railway, do let me know if you find out. :)

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  19. Isn't that the truth! It so often amazes me that the kindness we extend to others we often don't extend to ourselves. I'm so guilty of that. Sometimes I am astounded at the thoughts I have about myself and am certain that I would never have those thoughts about another person. Such a good reminder!! Thank you! And thanks for sharing that beautiful art. I am going to check out this artist. Hugs, Silke

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